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Topics To Avoid On A First DateFirst date today and you have the mixed feelings of excitement and nervousness inside you??? You might have several questions going in your mind and heart...how s/he looks like? what to wear? how to start the conversation? what to talk about and what not? how to reply to the questions and enquiries? etc. All this happens when you are ready to see somebody for the first time. Its nothing new with you, its quite natural and happens almost with everyone...
In fact, making the first date a success takes a lot of work and you should put in all your efforts to do it as you know first impression is the last one and there is no second chance to make the first impression. You are seeing somebody for the first time and you don't know much about the person - the nervousness in such a situation is obvious and in such nervousness making some mistakes is obvious too. But we can give you some hints which may help you come out of situation where you can make blunder.
Before going ahead in mentioning what should not be discussed during first dating, its good to understand, people like talking about themselves. Its just the human nature and there is nothing wrong in it. Most of us would rather talk about our life than listen to someone else talk about theirs. Is it not true? Here you go, give your date the chance talk about her/himself. This will help to keep things going smoothly with the benefit that you will make a good impression on your date being caring and a good listener. This will also gives you the opportunity to know more about the other person. This will give you chance to explore more about other person's personality while yours is still vague and will definitely give the opportunity for following dates. Would it not be great???
You might also be wondering, what if your date offers this chance to talk about yourself...No problem, talk about yourself but DON'T forget to give them the chance too to say something about her/himself. Keep couple of things in mind while talking about yourself...
Keep your conversation positive throughout without bringing up anything negative. Avoid controversial topics like religion, politics, etc unless you get to know the person better. Your job might be lousy but for the person whom you are seeing the first time, it doesn't matter as s/he is seeing you the first time. Don't make the mistake of talking about your job on first date conversation. Talking or discussing about jobs could make a negative impression on your partner. The common mistake made by most of the people is talking about ex-partner. This first date is an opportunity to start fresh and new. Never talk about your ex-partner, avoid it. Focus on the interests of the person you are with. Give her/him the importance and their presence and make them feel that you are really interested in knowing more about him/her.
You are a great person with an impressive personality. But would you be happy listening, to or BRAGGING of, other person's achievements and accomplishments? Of course not. Similarly, don't brag about your accomplishments. Don't make your date take you as an arrogant person but just talk naturally. Remember to give your date a chance to talk about her/himself too, so that both of you can find some compatibility, some common tastes in each other. Don't give hard time to your date to know you. Put efforts to listen and understand her/him and make it easy for them to understand you.
Written by Dr. Pink
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