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Tips And Tricks on Dating OnlineA note for men
Take care when chatting women up that you don't come on too strong as a woman on her own could find this intimidating.
Also, women are naturally more helpful and ready to assist and don't mind providing assistance altruistically without a need for gain or reward. While seeking advice make sure you're getting the 'she's interested signals' and not in 'general help mode'.
A note for women
It's important to remember that men function on a different level to women. If they're attracted to you or interested they'll not only talk about the wine, they'll enquire about the dish you're cooking and find any excuse to keep the conversation going.
Match your listener's mood
One third of initial impressions come from how we say things. The tone, inflection and delivery are very important.
One of the key things in initiating conversation is to match your listener's mood, even if it's just for a moment, because misreading this can kill the conversation from the outset.
When you approach someone who's caught your eye you have to make a quick judgement. Gauge whether they're buoyant, quiet or bored and then adjust your tone accordingly.
Also, your approach will have to be a little different, depending on where you are. In the park for instance, you need to have a light and easy banter - "Where's the caf or pavilion?" whereas in a pub or club you can be a bit more cheeky and flirty.
Five tips for success
1. Avoid cheesy chat up lines and focus more on 'approach scenarios'.
2. Ask questions and show a genuine interest in what the other person is saying.
3. Match your listener's mood.
4. Having engaged your potential date in conversation don't over-stay your welcome. Remember less is more!
5. When you've secured the phone number of your potential date it's a good idea to text message them (if they have a mobile). Texting means there is no pressure on either side.
Written by Dr. Pink
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