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Profile Building for menWhenever you are looking for a new job you have to revisit your CV, update it with the new tricks and sell your skills the best you can. It's your presentation and people will judge you depending on it. On a similar note, when you are looking for a date on a dating website, the first point of contact is your profile. You could be the best catch in the world but the truth is if you don't sell yourself, other people won't realise that!
98% of replies are to adverts with photos !
The most common complaint is from members without a photo who do not get many replies to their adverts. This is a simple fact of life. With a good picture, nice smile and a good advert you will go a long way to making that good first impression. Your advert represents you. An empty advert and no photo shows you have no desire to describe yourself so why should anyone pay any interest? Most also search for people that have photo’s in their profile.
First rule: Always be honest on your profile.
When you try dating online you can be whomever you want, initially at least. You can pretend to be a supermodel or a super-rich businessman, but is this your idea of dating? You might have some fun at first misleading people and getting their attention, but pretending you're something you are not is not going to work. Ultimately you must meet face to face - that's the whole point after all - and they won't be impressed by your act. In the end you will be disappointed as well. This rule actually means "Be yourself".
Second rule: Underline your strong points.
Everyone has strong and weak points, but at first you should emphasise your strong points and try to "sell" - what an ugly word - yourself. The first impression is always the one that counts the most and is the strongest impression we have about a person. Of course you have some weak points - try to present those as opportunities for improvement. If it works out - fingers crossed - you will discover each other's weak points and learn from each other and help each other improve. That's how every relationship works - so don't be too worried about your weak points. However if you think one of your weak points might be a no-no in the future, you should mention it from the start to save yourself from disappointment.
Third and last rule: Have fun!
Many people will appreciate your sense of humour, so don't keep it just to yourself. Many people feel the pressure of dating and are simply too shy. Just open yourself, enjoy yourself and make the most out of it. Some people simply radiate good time and that is the best first impression someone could give. Enough with the rules. How much are people willing to share about themselves? Well, some people have different no-nos when filling in profiles for dating websites. Some don't want to reveal their photograph, some don't feel comfortable saying how much they weight and so on. You should try to fill in as much information about you as you can and try to personalise your profile so that it represents you. Of course it's difficult to describe yourself in 100 words but it really can make you think - what am I like? How can I describe myself best? What is really important for me? And most importantly - who am I looking for? You definitely don't want to send the wrong message out, as ultimately you would like to meet someone in real life, someone who matches your dreams. Do not ignore the importance of your profile and try to make it expressive and eye catching - at least for your intended audience. If you're looking for someone smart, send an intelligent message with focus on intellectual content. If you're after someone with the looks, then post your photo and say that you only want the best looking apply.
Written by Dr. Pink
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